What is Dying Matters Week?

Dying Matters is a national campaign run by Hospice UK to promote the importance of talking about the end of life. Here at Dove House we are using the campaign to encourage the local community to have conversations about death, dying and grief.



 

Why does talking about dying matter?

 Talking about death and dying  before someone dies is important because things are much harder to talk about when someone is very unwell and near the end of life and their loved ones are upset, or after a bereavement when people are grieving. Having the conversations early can make the time around someone's death easier to navigate both for them an dtheir family.

We know from our experience of supporting families before and after bereavement that those who have had these conversations earlier feel more prepared and more able to carry out their loved ones wishes.

How to talk about death and dying?


We know talking about the end of life can be difficult but those conversations are much easier to have earlier when everyone is able and before loved ones are grieving. Having the conversations earler also means you can ensure your wishes for the end of your life are recorded. Sometimes we hear that people are scared of causing upset by talking about death or even that they feel they are "tempting fate". We're encourahging you to have those conversations, even if you are healthy and well to prepare you for whatever life has in store.

We've put together some conversation starters to help get those important discussions underway:

Conversation Starters PDF

 

Things to organise before you die


We're encouraging you to think about the following things:
  • Making a Will
  • Funeral wishes
  • Future care plans
  • Online accounts and technology
  • Organ donation
Our ticklist information sheet can help you think more about these areas:

Things to think about before you die PDF

Talking to children about death and dying


Here at Dove House we have a dedicated children's bereavement service, Roots of Support, and we understand how important it is that young people are supported throughout bereavement. 

When talking to children and yound people about death it's important to:
  • Listen carefully and take your time
  • Seek support of other people who can help
  • Be clear and direct with your language
  • Don't be afraid to show your emotions
  • Be gentle and caring to each other
  • Use resources, like books, to help you
  • Value each child's needs individually

Find out more about Roots of Support